Teen dating with food allergies

“I think the big things for adolescents are really around dating with food allergies”

Interview around dating for teens by Lynn Desjardins from Radio Canada International. Be sure to listen to the recorded interview at the bottom of the page! :)

Kissing with Allergies - RCI

A wonderfully written article on Dating with Food Allergies

FlowersIf you are looking for more insight around dating with food allergies, the following recently published article is worth the read. And includes a few great quotes from Sloane Miller as well.

Communication, planning can help ease dating anxiety for people with food allergies

Livingwithallergies is in the news!

A terrific article in The Province by Lauren La Rose with the Canadian Press. Just in time for Valentines Day

@ WhyRiskIt, Anaphylaxis Canada, Sloane Miller

Communication, planning can help ease dating anxiety for people with food allergies

 

Allergies are not fair…

Let’s be honest. Sometimes when we have to miss out on something we really want to do, or perhaps our plate looks less appetizing than the person next to us, we start to think “allergies are not fair, why me?”. It’s what happens when we have allergies. Whether it be food allergies or environmental allergies. I’d be lying if I said that I’ve never missed out on something or felt a little angry and even sad because I could not attend an event. And there have been numerous times when I went to a party and ended up eating veggies while others ate things that looked a million times more appealing… however I’ve always tried to spin my thinking.

It’s easy to start telling ourselves that life would be so much better without allergies, especially the food allergies… It is often easier to focus on what we’re NOT able to do, and NOT able to eat than it is to tell ourselves all the great things that are going on in our lives. Society nowadays leads one to want to compare what they have with what others have. If I have allergies and not one of my friends do, it is easy for me to feel frustrated and think life’s unfair or unjust. Is it always easy for me to embrace life? No, it’s not. It takes a little more energy, more confidence and a lot of honesty.

Whenever I start to feel down about not going to a party because my friends have a dog or a cat or not being able to attend an event because it is in an old, dusty building I just have smile and tell myself “it’s not the end of the world” and plan something else. It is what it is. There are a lot of people out there that would much rather have allergies than the disease they are fighting, or the injuries they have sustained from an accident. Allergies do suck sometimes, however allergies can be managed. We can control our environment. We can control the food we eat. And not everything involves food. We can still go to the movies with friends, go for a hike or a camping trip. To some people, these are all things they wish they could one day do…

Embrace life. Next time you think to yourself that you wish you didn’t have allergies and that life is unfair, think of those that have even more allergies… There are a few people that instead of being allergic to 4 things, can only eat 4 things.  I can’t even imagine.

At the end of the day, what matters the most is not the food you can or cannot eat. There is sooo much more to life. Allergies do feel unfair. Sometimes I’ve wished they’d just disappear on me. Reality is that my life-threatening allergies to peanuts, nuts, lentils and soy are likely here to stay. And I’m ok with that. Are you?

First Date

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I figured with Valentine’s day around the corner I would bring up the conversation of dating again… particularly first dates. i have been asked many a time from parents what dating looks like for me. Well, its been a little while since I’ve been in that scene though thought I’d chime in. 

When it comes to dating, it has always been a big concern for me because all of a sudden I am putting my life in someone else’s hands. My action has always been to discuss my allergies and the Epi at the very beginning of the relationship. Even before the first kiss. I’ve never had anyone reject me or turn me down because of my life threatening allergies and asthma. Believe me, if a guy or girl likes you they will ask questions and want to know how they can help keep you feeling safe. 

Where to go on a first date? Some place where food is not part of the game,  or a picnic where you offer to get the sandwiches. I’ve gone to coffee shops or for a walk on the breach or to a park, or done something active like gone for a bike ride. There are sooo many things you can do that do not involve food.

In leaving food out of the first date you can focus on getting to know each other and not worry about the food or stress about having to ask the waiter about your allergies in front of your date.