Wish there were more Christmas parties to go to!

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As I mentioned on Friday, we had a busy weekend ahead with two Christmas parties. They were both great fun! For the first, I was very relieved that we had eaten at home before going. It was definitely less awkward/uncomfortable for me as we had both eaten before the party. I am extremely fortunate to have a partner who will skip the meal too, so I don’t feel left out. We headed to the first party on a full stomach which is something I need to do more often so I don’t feel like I am missing out. I was so content with our delicious curried chicken dinner that I didn’t even feel like I was missing out on the wonderful desserts they had. I was glad I hadn’t tried to eat there as it ended up being a Chinese dinner, so I was very happy avoiding the food altogether.

After dinner Santa Claus showed up and each child got a gift! It was a great family oriented party and I made sure to wash my hands after shaking other people’s hands to be sure I wouldn’t have any allergens on my hands. I didn’t touch my face either, or brush hair away, to be sure I didn’t react from a previous handshake or from touching something. For me, it is important that I be cautious, and try to avoid being paranoid, so I take steps to prevent a reaction. We came home safe and sound!

After a good night’s sleep we were headed to the second party which was being held at the University of Victoria, here in Victoria, British Columbia. It was a beautiful location and we were lucky as it wasn’t raining too much. The second party, a Christmas lunch was much smaller than the Friday night one which was nice as I had been able to speak with the kitchen staff prior to the lunch. Once we arrived, we went to the kitchen staff and I introduced myself. They said that they had plates prepared for me and would bring them out the moment everyone else started getting their food from the buffet. They brought me a nice large salad with kale vinegar and oil, as I had asked for to be safe, and a second plate, the entrée, with turkey, steamed potatoes and vegetables. I was relieved when they brought out the 2 plates, as there was no dressing for me to worry about and no sauce on the turkey for me to be concerned about. When I am dining out, I much prefer plain veggies and meat as it’s one less thing I need to worry about. The food was delicious and by the end of it I was stuffed! However the fruit platter they had made me was irresistible, so I ate that too! I had a wonderful time, had no stress and spent a nice afternoon with colleagues.

All and all, a wonderful weekend. I just wish there were more! Unfortunately the other one we had planned to attend was on Friday night, so we couldn’t attend both. Next year, we are keeping our fingers crossed we will be able to attend all of them!

Have you had any Christmas parties yet? If so, how were they? If you haven’t had them yet, what are you doing to prepare for your Christmas party?

 

Teen dating with food allergies

“I think the big things for adolescents are really around dating with food allergies”

Interview around dating for teens by Lynn Desjardins from Radio Canada International. Be sure to listen to the recorded interview at the bottom of the page! :)

Kissing with Allergies – RCI

What worries you about dating with food allergies?

Question Mark

We all have some areas that we feel more comfortable in and others that we just don’t. Dating wasn’t always something I felt comfortable with. It took me time to get there. What questions do you have about dating with food allergies? What did you wish you knew? Is there anything you feel might prepare you or perhaps your child for entering the world of dating?

Is it the first kiss? Or a dinner date?

Leave a comment here and we’ll get the conversation going.

Livingwithallergies is in the news!

A terrific article in The Province by Lauren La Rose with the Canadian Press. Just in time for Valentines Day

@ WhyRiskIt, Anaphylaxis Canada, Sloane Miller

Communication, planning can help ease dating anxiety for people with food allergies

 

A weekend away

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It’s Friday and time for a weekend away! We’ve stopped to get groceries and are good to go!  Nothing like a relaxing weekend away with safe food. Staying at a place with a kitchen makes my allergy worries dissipate. I don’t mind cooking on a retreat, holiday etc because I have sooo much fewer worries, than when I need to ask a chef and kitchen staff about all the meals.

What’s your ideal vacation? Eating out for all meals or having your own kitchen? I’d choose the kitchen every time!! :)

First Date

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I figured with Valentine’s day around the corner I would bring up the conversation of dating again… particularly first dates. i have been asked many a time from parents what dating looks like for me. Well, its been a little while since I’ve been in that scene though thought I’d chime in. 

When it comes to dating, it has always been a big concern for me because all of a sudden I am putting my life in someone else’s hands. My action has always been to discuss my allergies and the Epi at the very beginning of the relationship. Even before the first kiss. I’ve never had anyone reject me or turn me down because of my life threatening allergies and asthma. Believe me, if a guy or girl likes you they will ask questions and want to know how they can help keep you feeling safe. 

Where to go on a first date? Some place where food is not part of the game,  or a picnic where you offer to get the sandwiches. I’ve gone to coffee shops or for a walk on the breach or to a park, or done something active like gone for a bike ride. There are sooo many things you can do that do not involve food.

In leaving food out of the first date you can focus on getting to know each other and not worry about the food or stress about having to ask the waiter about your allergies in front of your date.